"How We Live" Marriage Part 1

Intro, What the Bible says about men’s and women’s roles in marriage are. Why the God teaches us this, the deepest needs of women and man. How… being a respectable husband and being a lovable wife (interview with John and Joan)

Single people, either plan life or react to life. If you plan life you will give an attentive ear.

Tonight we are going to examine the Biblical foundation for marriage.
Read Col. 3:18-19


Lets do a crash course overview of Biblical marriage

Gen 1:27-29
Men and womens purpose is to rule, and procreate

Gen 2:18 “Helper Comparable” someone to rule with, collaborate with, enjoy with and celebrate with

Gen 2:22-23 Creation of women was out of man “one flesh” issue. First marriage.

Gen 2:24-25 This could be one of the most important verses for a married couple. You have a new life, you are the new family, you have new commitments and new responsibility .

The Fall Gen 3:16-19

If man had not sinned, he would always have ruled with wisdom and love; and, if the woman had not sinned, she would always respected her husband with humility and meekness; and then the dominion would have been no grievance: but our own sin and folly make our yoke heavy.

Then Old Testament issues due to the Fall
Biblical history of Israel records.
Polygamy, Adultery, Divorce, Homosexuality, Dilution of gender distinctions,

Which leads to a denigration and abuse of women, men thinking they are in charge of women and treating them like property and second class citizens. This was not God’s intention but a direct result of sin.

And Satan will continue to attack the marriage relationship.

Now we Fast forward to the New Testament

Eph 5:22-24

The parallel with man and Jesus is not putting men on an equal plain as Jesus but it is saying a husband should treat his wife like Jesus treats the church.
So rightly when a husband is emulating Jesus a wife will follow that lead.

Headship means to go first and pursuer you wife. Like Christ pursued the church

The Husband should be the first to lay down his life, the first to say they are sorry and forgive, the first to take spiritual leadership, the first show unconditional love. First to take responsibility.





Cultural argument
Some have said this was to go along with a patriarch society and Christianity would not look good if wives were not treated as property like the rest of the culture did. But that is false.

Culturally speaking men at this time period would have a harem of women and then when they got older would take a young wife so his name would go forth.

Paul is teaching here is no no no, this should not be, husbands should have one wife and treat her like Jesus treats the church.

Vrs 25-31 Husband love as Christ loved GOSPEL

Vrs 32 The mystery of Marriage is that foreshadows What Jesus did for the church. We are the bride of Christ and look forward to the day of the wedding supper of the Lamb.

Vrs 33 Respect and love is how you glorify spouse

Over the next two weeks we are going to talk about how to do this.